For our affirmations to work, they need our emotional support which is closely tied to our beliefs. Affirmations, like everything else our brain processes, are influenced by associations. This is a key point to keep in mind. It means that the beliefs that are most closely or strongly associated with your affirmations are the ones that will influence the outcome.
If you are saying one thing while believing or feeling the opposite, you are effectively associating that belief and the feelings/emotions that go with it to what you are affirming.
The brain is wired up in complex networks of associations or schemas and you are creating a schema whereby the opposing belief and emotions are associated with that which you are affirming!
The more times you repeat that affirmation, the more you will be triggering/reinforcing the opposing belief and emotions. Not only do you not create what you affirm, you strengthen the opposing belief, thereby creating or maintaining the opposing reality!
For instance, if you keep repeating, “I am in the perfect relationship with the partner of my dreams” while believing and feeling that dreams do not come true and/or that there is no such thing as a perfect relationship and/or that you will never meet the partner of your dreams, you are associating your affirmation with opposing beliefs and feelings. Consequently, the reality which most closely matches your beliefs and feelings will be what manifests or continues to manifest!
This is why it is important that if you choose to use affirmations, you should ensure that your emotions and beliefs support them. Otherwise, these affirmations will, at the very least, maintain your current reality, and at worst, create a reality that corresponds most closely with your beliefs and emotions, which is very likely the very opposite of what you want!
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