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Hi Everyone!
It’s the weekend and I know most people are trying to relax and make the most of this time that they have away from work. Not always easy if you have a ‘To Do’ list that has been just waiting to grab you by the throat and demand you attend to each item or else spend the entire weekend feeling guilty, unworthy and resentful whether about yourself or your partner, kids, pets, car, garden, washing…you know which ones better than I do :-).
However, here is something that I would implore you to do for your immediate happiness :-). In fact, get that ‘To Do’ list whether it’s on the fridge or buried in your mind and put this item right at the top: Give someone or something the Look of Love or the Gaze of Peace. Once you’ve done that, scan through all the items on your list, take a deep breath, smile, release and then do the following:
Find someone or something to give the Look of Love/Gaze of Peace to. It could be your partner, child, pet, garden…in fact, it could be absolutely anything! But as this might be your first time, find something/someone that you perceive to be a bit more ‘responsive’. (However, you will see later that their response is irrelevant).
Sit with this person/thing so that you are facing them fully. Now, here is what you must keep in mind throughout this exercise. Oh, did I forget to mention that it will only take you ONE MINUTE to do? Yes, that is all that you need to change your entire state of consciousness. (Actually, changing your state of consciousness only requires a moment but I will post about that another time…I seem to have a lot to post about ‘another time’ I’ve noticed :-)).
So, what do you have to keep in mind? Here’s what:
1. You are NOT TRYING TO SEND LOVE OR PEACE
2. You are NOT LOOKING FOR A RESPONSE.
2. You are NOT TRYING TO PSYCHOANALYZE
3. You are NOT JUDGING/EVALUATING/INTERPRETING
4. All you are doing is LOOKING or GAZING SOFTLY for ONE MINUTE
Please read that list over and over again until you are quite clear about what you are about to do. Note, I used the word ‘softly‘. The mind responds very favorably to this word. For most of us, the associations with the word ‘softly‘ (not ’soft’) are very positive associations. So, focus on looking/gazing SOFTLY.
As you sit with this person or thing in front of you (about 2 -3 feet away would be ideal), begin by closing your eyes and taking a few gentle but deep breaths, slowly and effortlessly. Let the word ‘SOFTLY or ‘SOFTEN‘ float in your mind as you do this. You do not have to think of it, but just have a sense that you have allowed yourself to soften, to sit softly. Do not put any pressure on yourself, do not look for particular changes, just allow the idea/sense of ‘softly‘ or ‘soften‘ to wander through your mind and your body.
Okay, when you have taken a few deep breaths, slowly and softly open your eyes and let your gaze rest ever so softly on your partner, child, pet or whoever else you have chosen to offer the Look of Love or the Gaze of Peace to. Just let it rest there. It doesn’t have to do anything except rest on the person/thing in front of you. If it is a person or a pet, let your gaze rest on their eyes. If it is an object, let your gaze rest more globally. Focus on keeping the gaze soft. You can do this by taking deep breaths and by remembering the words ‘softly‘ or ‘soften‘. Hold this gaze for one minute.
That’s all! Now tell me if you did not experience a wonderful sense of peace and quiet joy, a huge shift in your state of consciousness toward happiness! And I bet your partner or whoever else you offered the Look of Love or the Gaze of Peace to would have also felt a huge shift.
Now here’s another wonderful thing you can do. It makes use of something I wrote about it my last post, about how the ‘imagined’ and the ‘real’ have very similar effects on the brain and body. You can offer the Look of Love or the Gaze of Peace to someone (or something) who is not physically present with you. Just follow the same procedure this time visualizing it (or using a photograph if you prefer) and experience the marvelous change.
Please do it now. It only takes one minute but it has a tremendous flow-on effect. You’ll find yourself completing all the other items on your ‘To Do’ list effortlessly and joyously! And should you find yourself deciding you do not need or want to complete all the items on your list, you will not feel inclined to beat yourself up for it! Being happiness with the Look of Love or the Gaze of Peace is one of the easiest things you can do to bring about immediate change within you and around you!
Try it and let me know how you go!
Lucy Lopez
Awakening to Happiness!
