Jealousy is one of the most destructive mind states leading us to behave in deplorable ways – from launching verbal swipes/put downs at others to some of the most elaborate and heinous crimes of murder.

Put simply, jealousy is that mind state of thoughts and feelings that is rooted in a belief – that someone else has or is something that I want but which I believe I cannot have or be.

Because we see someone else have what we want and what we believe we cannot have, we direct our resentment towards that person.  Yet, when we examine it closely, we find that our jealousy has far more to do with our belief that we cannot have what we want than it is to do with someone else having what we want.

This is an important distinction to make because it allows us to see that the source and cause of our jealousy is not someone else and what they have but our very own mind and its beliefs about our power and freedom.

If we believed that we could have anything that we want and we felt free enough to go after what we want, we would never feel jealous about anyone.

When we believe that we cannot have or do something, we effectively put blocks in the natural flow of our free, limitless energy.

When we believe that someone else, by virtue of what they do or who and how they are, is a threat to our inner happiness, we put blocks in the natural flow of our free, limitless energy.

All this causes us to feel powerless and it is the feeling of powerlessness that causes us to take jibes at others, behave in childish and petulant ways and, in more extreme cases, take more extreme and destructive action.

In the relationship we have with our partners, jealousy, which ultimately results in the feeling of powerlessness, blocks the flow of love and gets in the way of our inner happiness.

You cannot feel happy and powerless at the same time – they are two very different vibrational states.

Are you interested in finding out how you can overcome jealousy in your relationship and have the relationship you truly desire?  Are you serious about taking charge of yourself so that you can be the kind of partner you wish to attract?

You’ll find guidance on these and other relationship issues that trouble most partners in my free ebook, Relationships – Burning Questions, Illuminating Answers – The Inspired Guide to having the relationship you truly desire.  You can download it here.

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What is jealousy, really?

Jealousy is simply and clearly the fear that you do not have value.  Jealousy scans for evidence to prove the point – that others will be preferred and rewarded more than you.  There is only one alternative – self-value.  If you cannot love yourself, you will not believe that you are loved.  You will always think it’s a mistake or luck.  Take your eyes off others and turn the scanner within.  Find the seeds of your jealousy, clear the old voices and experiences.  Put all the energy into building your personal and emotional security.  Then you will be the one others envy, and you can remember the pain and reach out to them.

Jennifer James at  Quote Garden

I remember feeling, as a child, greatly hard done by by my parents over my brother, four years older than me.  I somehow  felt that he got preferential treatment.  I know for a fact that he was allowed certain liberties that I wasn’t.

Was I jealous of him?

Well, my sense of self-worth was certainly battered each time I perceived my brother getting something I felt I wasn’t getting.  The sad thing about jealousy is that we can almost always convince ourselves that we are justified in feeling it because, as Jennifer James so cleverly puts it, we are always scanning for supporting evidence!

But I think that there is another part to jealousy and that is that while we hurt about what another person has, does or is because we don’t, we also wish that they didn’t.  The two make for an extremely debilitating and disempowering coupling!

What are your thoughts?

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