“I have developed several emotional issues like lack of self confidence, self-esteem, concentration problem, anxiety and being a perpetual worrier on trivia”.

Although his case may seem uncommon to those of us who have lived in comparatively safer and freer countries, you might be interested in reading about the common causes of our mental, emotional and psychological unrest in my response to him:

“A blessed New Year to you Z!  And thank you for your inquiry.

Moving from one country/culture to another even when the two countries/cultures are similar is quite an upheaval – pulling up one’s ‘roots’ and establishing new ‘roots’.

When the two countries/cultures are so different, that upheaval has an added dimension of adjustment.  In your case, this adjustment may have much to do with trust.

I say this because it seems that you have grown up and lived in a culture that you now see as oppressive and one that you appear to be unable to trust.  Perhaps you have always felt the culture, religion and government of your country of birth to be oppressive and untrustworthy.

Whichever it is, the fact is you don’t feel you are able to live your life as fully and freely as you would like to, personally and professionally.

The first thing I’d like to say, Z, is that there are many, many people who are not living their lives as fully and as freely as they would like to.  They can be found in all parts of the world.

The clinics and offices of professional therapists, psychologists, counsellors and other related professionals in the West (and to a slightly lesser degree in the East) are well patronized by such people.

My point here is simply this:

While our backgrounds may be different, our experiences unique and the triggers for our psychological and mental disquiet many and varied, the underlying cause of our mental/emotional/psychological pain is the same – it is fear.

Fear takes many forms, one of which is distrust.  We are unable to trust the world to be kind to us, to do right by us and to allow us to live fully and freely.

At the same time, we have lost confidence in ourselves and we are unable to trust ourselves to know what is best for us, to make the decisions that we need to make and to follow our dreams.  In short, to live fully and freely!

Let me say it again – most of us are in the same boat.  We differ only in degree!

So, what can I recommend in a situation such as yours?

I shall put it in dot points.  I suggest that you use each one as a point of reflection and meditation.

Begin by sitting in a quiet and comfortable place.  Allow yourself to relax by holding a sense of softness in your mind.  Take some deep and gentle breaths.  Then instruct your mind in the following way:

I allow myself to be soft, open and spacious.

I allow myself to sit in the direct flow of universal energy, source, unconditional love, god, Allah (use the term that you are most comfortable with).

I allow myself to feel the peace, power, joy and freedom of this universal energy.

Take a few more deep breaths.

Now, reflect on one or more of the following.  Take your time with each:

I am an expression of god/love/universal energy

As an expression of god/love/universal energy, no one and no thing has power over me

The only thing that is vulnerable is my fear-conditioned mind

My natural mind is powerful, peaceful, joyous, limitless and free

No one and no thing is responsible for my happiness or unhappiness, my sense of power or powerlessness, no more than I am responsible for anyone else’s

When I cease to hold someone or something else responsible for who and what I am, I assume full responsibility for, and power over, myself.  I am liberated.

As an expression of ultimate source/universal energy, I am free to be, do and have anything I want.  I am only limited by my fear-conditioned mind

My purpose in life is joy.  It is something I can choose right now and focus on right now

When I focus on joy, on living fully and freely, I feel empowered for I have dropped all disempowering thoughts and feelings

May I also suggest the following articles that you will find at my blog:

Being happy means being powerful  http://www.lucylopez.net/planethappiness/?p=654
Whatever you believe, you are right    http://www.lucylopez.net/planethappiness/?p=246
A beautiful meditation for the happiness of all    http://www.lucylopez.net/planethappiness/?p=398
How do you handle barriers to your happiness     http://www.lucylopez.net/planethappiness/?p=678

I hope you find them useful.

Have faith Z.  Trust in the true nature of who you are – powerful, limitless and free.  Experience it in meditation.  Be joyous in your intentions!”

Love always,

Lucy

Awakening to Happiness, Prosperity and Freedom!

PS  Keep an eye out for my free new ebook, 10 Power and Prosperity Themes for the New Year, that you’ll be able to download from this blog!

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Ready for some no-nonsense, right between the eyes, wrist-slapping self-examination?

Well, ready or not, here it comes:

If you believed that your happiness was not in the least bit affected by

what others say or do,

the choices they make,

the catastrophes they somehow ordain,

the beyond-belief atrocities they execute,

the unpardonable shame they rain upon themselves and others,

the irreparable damage they cause to themselves or others or to the planet,

the ignominious way they treat others…

yes, I could go on but you get the point…

well, would you be happy?

If you answered ‘Yes’, I have only one thing to say to you:

Welcome to the kingdom of god, to the place of eternal truth, to the source of un-caused happiness!


If you answered ‘No’, I have only one suggestion to make:

Answer the question again and this time choose a different answer.

Love always!

Lucy

Awakening to Happiness, Prosperity and Freedom!

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“She lived her life with passion, using every waking moment to experience joy and peace and oneness with all of life. That she did her best is indisputable. Everyone does their best even if judged otherwise whether by themselves or others. But she, she poured passion into her life, she allowed it to flow freely and fully for she knew without a trace of doubt that that was what enabled her to reach beyond the security of her habits, outside the confines of her beliefs and across the enchanting landscape of her imagination. Yes, she lived a life she was happy to die for!”

Can you hear that being said when they celebrate your passing? Would you like it to?

“Take your passion and make it happen”

Flashdance

Life, as we know it, has patterns, patterns that appear in every facet of life so that if you change the pattern in one area of your life, it is likely to emerge in other areas of your life. It’s a bit like the ‘ripple effect‘ except that its effects are most noticeable, initially at least, within your life only.

So, for instance, if you found something, anything, that you felt really passionate about or could get passionate about and fed it uncompromisingly with that energy of passion, not only would that part of your life experience wonderful changes, you’ll experience changes in other areas of your life.

Why? Because the energy of passion brings out the best in you. It draws on your natural goodness, greatness, magnificence, beauty, wholeness and creativity.

And what is passion? It is the natural, spontaneous response to truth which itself is the vessel of all that is good and great!  Passion. therefore,  is not an addiction nor an enslavement.

It is a fact often observed, that men have written good verses under the inspiration of passion, who cannot write well under any other circumstances.

The like force has the passion over all his nature. It expands the sentiment; it makes the clown gentle, and gives the coward heart. Into the most pitiful and abject it will infuse a heart and courage to defy the world, so only it have the countenance of the beloved object. In giving him to another, it still more gives him to himself. He is a new man, with new perceptions, new and keener purposes, and a religious solemnity of character and aims. He does not longer appertain to his family and society; he is somewhat; he is a person; he is a soul.

Ralph Waldo Emerson

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